Society-social or anti-social

As life moves on, we come across many people....good or bad lies in the perspective....but for me mostly good or as I like to believe. Observing people has been one of my favorite pastime....you never realize how complex a human can be.....social animals as we are called, humans are far more than social. Social or anti-social....anti-social in the sense opposing the society in one or more different ways, be it quiet denial or a loud retaliation or may be more louder....like the terrorists do...but they are not my point of interest. I just used 'anti-social' in the perspective I see it....not in the perspective many would like to see it as. Anyway, life changes fast....a loser in high school may be an achiever in the real life or the other way round....and at each point of time, a person has some spoken or unspoken beliefs about oneself being right and the society, in any frame-family,friends or community, being wrong. Struggling to keep up with this belief is human nature,as we see, humans are quite resistant to change, some may show it while some may just accept the change for a better acceptance in the society since change is what the society brings into an individual despite being thought the other way. Fashion for example is a change, an individual might not be comfortable in skin-hugging pants but would wear it for the sake that a certain group(read society) of people believe it is what the latest trend(read change) is...and to be a part of such a change there are many compromises from the individual's side.....comfort being the first one. But these are minor changes. What about the comfort on a larger canvas? What about a girl who wants to marry a guy of her choice while the society believes that arranged marriage is the right thing? The so-called moral police who forbids an attire of somebody's choice just because that is what the religious texts forbid....encroaching a person's personal life just for the sake of society which by definition is nothing more than a group of like minded people. I cant stop wondering why an individual is dragged into this group of like minded people even when she does not want to. Where does freedom and the countless minds in search of freedom vanish? Be it on any level, its not by personal will that a person is a part of any society.....peer pressure, need of acceptance and many more factors influence an individual. When a person says " I am living my life on my own terms......." those terms are still influenced by countless conditions, known or unknown. Freedom is never available in the literal sense, always conditioned and presented in a way that from outside it always appears as freedom in its true sense. But such high is the human need for acceptance by all and being able to make everyone happy that this need overpowers every minor or major flaw in the relation of individual freedom and society. And in the end, what is established is a harmony or a 'so-called' co-existence between an individual and the society...and this blend is so smooth and homogenous from above that howsoever hard one tries, one may never be able to decipher the turbulence in the bottom. Such is life and such is the society which frames an individual......